Category Archives: Chapter 9

Chapter 9 Actual Families, Actual Challenges  Throughout this book I have described concerns facing parents with whom I have worked in order to illustrate salient concepts and practices. I hope that reviewing the reasoning I applied as a child clinical … Continue reading →

Learned Helplessness? Our daughter never does anything without first saying, “You help me!” What can we do? Some children display what has been called “learned helplessness,” perhaps the case with your child. Any child whose first reaction is “you help … Continue reading →

Focus on Self-initiated Responsibility We can reinforce our child for getting his chores done, but we want him to want to do the right thing, not just do them because he gets something for it. How can the program help … Continue reading →

Managing Parental Stress I am a single mother and I am trying hard to make the program work, but sometimes I just get fed up and yell at the children when they get too wild. Then I feel like I’ve … Continue reading →

Differing Parental Expectations My wife and I disagree about what to put into our program. She says I expect too much from the children, and I think she’s too soft. How can we get past this problem? Many parents operate … Continue reading →

When Saying “No” is too Difficult It is just so hard for me to tell my children “no” when they want to do things that I think they shouldn’t, and then we end up in fights. How can I get … Continue reading →

When Your Child “Quits” the Program We were doing pretty well with our program for a few weeks but then our twelve-year-old daughter got very upset. When she left time-out and came to the kitchen, she dropped a pile of … Continue reading →

Assisting a Child with Attention Deficit Disorder We have carefully considered all you have said and wished it would work for us, but our son has ADD. His medication is helping him some, but he still has a hard time … Continue reading →

Your Program and Children of Divorce This program sounds like it might be a good idea, but I am divorced and my children’ father won’t go along with any of it, so what can I do? Many single parents report … Continue reading →

Your Program and Children of Divorce (continued) My 12-year-old son returns from a weekend at his dad’s house all wound up. When I try to discipline him, he tells me I am mean and says he likes it better with … Continue reading →